When the Faith That Was Safe Becomes Unsafe
Explore why a place you once belonged can begin to feel unsafe, why spiritual hurt can be hard to name, and why healing may feel like losing faith at first.
A self-paced course with Kate Willsey
Is it God
Is it God
or Is it Me?
Moving out of spiritual wounding and into a life of abundance.
A place to explore how your experiences have shaped the way you relate to God, with room for both your faith and your humanity.
Explore the course · $199
Short lessons. Space to reflect. Your own pace.
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KNOW YOUR STORYHONOR YOUR HUMANITYRECONNECT WITH GOD
Why this course exists
There is room for your faith
There is room for your faith
and your whole story
Your relationship with God can make room for the parts of your story that are still unresolved. You don't have to abandon your humanity to experience a meaningful spiritual life.
There is room to rebuild trust in yourself while learning to trust God. To experience faith beyond fear, performance, and the pressure to get everything right. And to discover a relationship with God that you can participate in with your whole self.
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Who this course is for
Does any of thisfeel familiar?
- You love God, but sometimes your relationship with him feels more driven by fear than connection.
- Your beliefs have changed, but your body still responds to faith the way it always has.
- You struggle to tell the difference between God's guidance and your own desires.
- You want to feel connected to God and spiritual community, but past experiences still bring up feelings of shame.
About the course
A little learning.
A little learning.
A little space.
A pace that is yours.
A self-paced course that brings Christian spirituality and psychology into conversation, with short video lessons and a companion workbook to help you reflect.
Move through the material when you have the time and capacity. Pause a lesson. Revisit a question. Let a reflection take longer than you expected.
Across six modules and a bonus, you’ll map your spiritual story, recognize survival strategies, explore identity and safety, and reflect on the faith you want to grow into. Workbook exercises help you connect what you’re learning with your own experience.
See what's inside ↓01
Watch
Short-form video lessons that fit into real life.
02
Reflect
A companion workbook to bring the questions into your own story.
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Return
Revisit the material and take the time you need.
The curriculum
Six modules.Space to go deeper.
From understanding your spiritual story to finding small moments of safety with God, each module offers a place to pause, reflect, and explore.
Spiritual Mapping: What’s Your Story, Anyway?
Trace the messages you learned about God at home and in church, and explore how your attachment experiences have shaped the way you relate to Him.
Common Spiritual Survival Strategies
Recognize how shame, control, rejection, and abandonment can show up in faith through performance, people-pleasing, hypervigilance, and the need to get everything right.
Getting Over Bad Spiritual Identity
Explore how spiritual hurt can shape who you believe you are. Begin separating your behavior from your identity, with space to move beyond spiritual codependence and enmeshment.
Borrowed Safety: Cultivating Safety with a God You’ve Learned to Fear
You don’t have to force yourself to feel safe with God. Explore small experiences of safety through relationships, your body, boundaries, slowness, and presence.
Moving into a Faith You Love
Reflect on the fruit of your life and the faith you want to grow into, with room to experience both grief and joy with God.
Borrowed Safety: Belonging in Church Institutions When Everyone’s Unhealthy
Explore belonging in imperfect church settings, with space to notice your own responses and reflect on what safety can look like.
Explore the modules in your own time, with room to pause and return.
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What's included
Something to watch.Something to sit with.
- 20+Short-form video lessons
- 40Page companion workbook
- 6Self-paced course modules
- +1Bonus module
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Meet your instructor
Hi, I'm Kate.
I'm a licensed social worker, psycho-spiritual coach, and someone who deeply cares about the intersection of Christian spirituality and our emotional lives.
My relationship with faith has been shaped by my own experiences of spiritual wounding, questioning, and learning what it means to relate to God beyond fear.
I created Is it God or Is it Me? because I believe we deserve space to explore how our experiences have shaped our faith, without feeling like we have to abandon our humanity in the process.
My hope is that this course gives you language for your experiences, room to understand your story, and a starting place for cultivating a relationship with God that makes room for your whole self.
A few things you may be wondering
FAQs
Take a look before deciding whether this course feels like the right fit for you.
Is this course for me whether or not I've experienced religious trauma?
Yes! You don't need to have a dramatic church hurt story to benefit from this course. If you've experienced significant religious trauma or spiritual harm, there is room for your story here, too. This course explores how your spiritual experiences have shaped your relationship with God and yourself.
Do I need to be attending a church to take this course?
Not at all. Whether you're attending church, taking a break, or unsure if you'll ever return, you're welcome here. The course doesn't require church participation or assume that returning is your goal.
What if I'm questioning my faith or don't know what I believe anymore?
You don't need to have your beliefs figured out before beginning. This course makes room for questions and uncertainty without expecting you to arrive at a particular conclusion.
Will this course tell me what to believe about God?
No. While this course is rooted in Christian spirituality and informed by psychology, it isn't designed to tell you what to believe about God. Instead, it offers frameworks and reflective practices to help you explore your own experiences and relationship with him.
Do I need to be deconstructing my faith to benefit from this course?
No. You might be questioning certain beliefs or simply wanting to understand your relationship with God more deeply. This course isn't about getting you to a particular stage of faith. It's about making room for your own process.
Is this course therapy?
No. Is it God or Is it Me? is an educational and reflective course that integrates Christian spirituality and psychological concepts. It is not therapy or a replacement for professional mental health care.
You can take this course alongside therapy, but it is not intended to provide individualized clinical support.
Do I need to follow a schedule, or can I work at my own pace?
The course is completely self-paced! You can move through the lessons and workbook at a pace that works for you. There's no required schedule or deadline for completion.
What comes with my purchase?
Your purchase includes six course modules, one bonus module, more than 20 short video lessons (each five minutes or less), and a 40-page reflection workbook.
Everything is available online for you to work through at your own pace.
Is a community or personal support included?
No. This is a fully self-guided course, so community participation and individual coaching are not included. The course provides education and reflection exercises you can work through independently.
How long will I have access to the course?
You'll have ongoing access to the course materials after purchasing, for as long as the course remains available on the platform. You can revisit the lessons and workbook during that time.
How much does the course cost?
The complete course is $199 USD. This is a one-time payment, not a subscription.
What is the refund policy?
Due to the digital nature of this course and immediate access to the materials upon purchase, all sales are final, except where refunds are required by applicable law.
Please review the course details before purchasing to make sure it's the right fit for you. If you experience technical issues accessing your course, please reach out for assistance.
Is it God or Is it Me? · With Kate Willsey
A little more
understanding.
A little more
understanding.
A little more room for
a life of abundance.
If you're ready to explore the connection between your story and your spiritual life, there's space to begin here.
$199USD
20+ video lessonsCompanion workbookSelf-paced
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